A lady, Jessica, who kept her “purity” until her wedding night, had this to say about her boring marriage:
1. Séxual chemistry
Our bodies wanted different things from one another, so what we ended up with was a horizontal battle. I would hear married girlfriends talk about the joys of make-up séx and continue to sip my coffee in silence. We would fight, and then have bad séx and then fight some more. Every flaw in our marriage and in him seemed much more miserable when combined with the possibility of faking orgasms until death did we part. There was no relief.
Six months into our marriage, the idea of separating seemed more appealing than feigning headaches for the rest of my life.
As Jessica found out, séxual chemistry is something that can really only be ascertained by, well, having séx. She would make out for hours with her husband before their marriage, so she thought that would translate into awesome horizontal mambo. Unfortunately, it didn’t.
2. Séxual identity
What if your partner is gay and he/she doesn’t even know it? There are too many couples where one partner was able to cover up his or her true sexual persuasion because he or she simply didn’t made love with anyone. Cos not having séx with the opposite séx means you ignore those longings you might have for the same séx, and therefore don’t acknowledge them.
3. Séx itself
Not everyone is great in bed, and most people don’t start out very good at all. A lot of good séx is about listening to your partner and being able to respond accordingly. But how do you know if someone is a good listener or responder unless you try it first?
Don’t you want to know if your husband is packing a hunting rifle or a tiny little plastic kid’s pistol? After all, he knows how big your “oranges” are. I’m not saying size should be a dealbreaker, but don’t you have the right to know what is down there?
5. Séxual issues
Séxual problems like premature éjaculation, inability to get an eréction, or even an allergy to your partner’s semen are all possibilities, wouldn’t you rather deal with those issues before you’re married? This way you know if your future is even going to address them.
Let’s face it, séx plays a big role in marriage. Just like you should discuss children, religion, and where you both want to live before tying the knot, séx is too big a part of a relationship to leave to chance.
You are free to agree or disagree with my 5 reasons but you know deep down this is the truth.